Inspiration


June 17, 2014

It’s weird but I love the written word that I feel that words, books, quotes and comic become apart of my psyche. That it becomes apart of me… It becomes apart of the legacy I am passing down to my children. I have noticed in my life I lack commitment to my ideals and that bugs me as a person, who thinks about life and have developed a way of living and what really matter is I want to change it has to be me that changes it….I have been searching for inspiration …a quote won’t do, I want to be inspired to be a better mother, a better wife, a better human, to care for others, to search out my dreams set on a course to achieve them! This is what it means to be alive and I am tired of just existing…I want to live inspired…

I am a 34 year old (almost 35; so maybe this is my mid life crisis:/) 293.2 lbs. mother of 4 children (ages 14,12,7,5) so far so good. I am still cool to my teen but don’t know how much longer that will last. Maybe this is from living a life of always doing what is best for others and never doing for me. Maybe I should just give up and burn my dreams and live comatose the rest of the time I have. Maybe I should just focus and live a shallow life.

So far I have found 3 people who really inspire me in different ways, no these aren’t people that I know personally but people who inspire me nonetheless. My first is Leonard Sweet, he is an author who is a professor of theology. He inspires me to not take what “church” says but to think and that scripture is way more deep than what is on the surface or what your pastor says. I feel like he looks at the whole world, and shows where God is involved. Just someone who inspires me to think of faith and take it out of the box. I love that,
My second is C.M. Punk, the more I learn the more I am inspired. His personal story, is a lot like mine but instead of just thinking I wasn’t good enough or wasn’t worth it. He said “I am worth it! I deserve better and am I am going to find it and I am going to pursue it”. He’s more of the legacy I want my kids to have that you work hard, focus on your dreams, stay clean and they won’t be able to deny you your dream. I am glad that I am still able to be inspired…Thank you Mr. Brooks for it all!
My last is Stephen Amell, but he inspires me physically, I know I have done a blog on this already. The tweets and posts and the videos of him running or doing the par core stuff that he does. I am like I want to do that it looks like so much fun! I really want to get into mma/kicking boxing just because it looks like fun, but to do those things I need to lose weight. I started out at 308 lbs, my biggest problem is being committed to do it everyday. So every time I think about not exercising, I think of Stephen Amell running 10 1/2 miles for my entertainment I am like I can get up and move my body. I know my husband thinks I have an obsession but really it is just inspiration.

All these things just add up to telling myself that I am worth it… That loving myself is worth the extra effort… My dreams don’t belong on a shelf but in my heart pushing myself onward and upward, to inspire others to push to achieve. Let my kids know to always work hard, to keep pushing forward.

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Am I worth it


When did we or I ever start thinking that just because I am not perfect… That I am not worthy of love, attention, or caring. When did I become someone to judge or loathe, that it was ok, to cast me aside. Society should never dictate to people, but people dictate to soceity. What do we want the world to look like, like the quote says

be the change you want to see in the world

I am determined to live passionately, with purpose and I know my kids will see and hopefully follow. So there is a world fully of people who put others first, reach out in love, and inspire other to be more than what they are at that moment, seeing who they could be instead of who they.

I say all that to say this:

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This past week I was was on Twitter and ran across this tweet by Stephen Amell and it made me feel really lazy, like horrible…if he can do that for my entertainment then I can do 20 minutes of cardio or whatever… :) let’s all be as passionate about ourselves as he is about his career…<3 it really inspired me…So Mr.Amell thank you!

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Looking for the right quote


Lately life has been a struggle, no I am dealing with things that are life threating but for me they are soul crushing. Maybe that is why I turn my thoughts to heroes or more importantly, the hero within. I need to be the hero for my husband, for my kids, for myself. I have often felt like just giving up, and not fighting for those I love be just settle into just being and not doing. I have often felt that mistakes I have made are over but recently I feel like they are crushing me like I was stacking boxes then they just fell and I am slowly suffocating under them and once in a while I can move one and see the light, then another one falls in it place. I know their is hope, I know I only need to reach my hand out and get that help up. That person will tell me “you are not done yet, get up and fight, fight for me and for your children and your husband. You are stronger than you let your self be quit look for the hero on the outside but the one that lives within you”

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Thank you

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Like a hero


As of right now I am obsessed with Arrow the tv show! If you haven’t seen it you just must go on Netflix and watch the whole of season one.
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For me as a person, wife, and mother- the show Arrow it inspires me . It shows someone who is struggling with many inner demons and bad choices and who I once was and can never be again, all the while exploring the humanity of life again. We all need people who are doing these things to help us not to forget to fight to never surrender doing good or give up on ourselves and each other. Oliver Queen shows who we shouldn’t be either self centered, jerk, and who really doesn’t care about who he hurts. Oliver comes back from the island a changed person in more than one way, he is determined to be the person he always thought his father was, and to honor his father in ways that only a son can. “If you go through a crucible, you grow the stronger for it” and if you have lost someone you really love and cared about, in a sense you stop living for your self but for the memory of being greater better.

As a person I need to know that heroes exist , their a force that compels good people to never think of ourselves but to help others fight the battle between good and evil. We all have a dark side of our personalities, it hard sometimes not to give in when we see evil all around us doing well. While the good suffers,

love mercy, do justly, be humble before God

But it is in that suffering that make the good worth doing. I personally love that heroes now and days, are highly imperfect that they struggle inside their own minds of what they are doing. Reconciling, in their own minds what they are doing also that they can not do it alone they need other like minded people who have a desire to use the talents they have to make a difference for the good of others.

As a mother , I am responsible for raising 4 unique individuals, 3 girls and 1 boy. I need Batman and The Arrow, to show my kids that

do the right thing because it is the right thing

For my children I want them to possess all the ideals of what heroes are honest, loving, loyal, honorable, sees the best in people, a leader.I have been exposing my kids to this since my oldest was in diapers, but it never became that important until I had my son. There is something in having a boy that makes you want him to be better than you. I was no longer good enough, that a young man need older men to show him the way. How you treat women, being respectful, living your life with honor, giving a 100% all the time. It is not that I didn’t feel that way with my girls, I still feel inadequate to raise my children, I love them enough to say I am still working on being a better person, I keep fighting my demons and letting them see me struggle hopefully they know it is all for them.

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So The Arrow helps me to never lose hope, keep fighting, to put others first, never use people because they are emotionally compromised, find those other people and use your talents for good. I contend everyone is a hero you just have to have that one person that believes in you, that you more than what you seem that gives you a vision of the person you want to be, they become your muse or inspiration for living better.

We all need each other and we all need to be aware that we are each going throughout something to honor those experiences. Don’t push down painful things but embrace them feel that pain and let it propel you forward to a new future and a new hope.

My new quote to live by:

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The person that saved me who was my hero was my step father, who past away in August of 2011, he inspires me because he loved me and saw the good in me when I was just a broken child and he lived being a hero until he lost his battle.

Thank you for reading!

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What does it mean to be well educated


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I am a mother of 4 children, I love the idea of homeschooling but can never be organized enough to really do it. I have tried on and off for the last 8 years mostly with my oldest two, but never really feel like I am successful at it. I think we as parents want the same things for our kids, to be critical thinkers, to have a heart for others, to be wise , be able to function in society, have faith, have careers and kids and wives/husbands. It doesn’t matter so much on whether on the political climate, even though I consider myself independent. I want for my children to yearn to learn and not so much to pass a test but because it is fun. Isn’t that why we send them to school because they do it fun! I feel like I do it wrong, but I do want my kids to enjoy it. Not sit here, read that and answer those questions. Education is supposed to be about experiencing what ever it is they are supposed to be learning. Let us as parent be less about ….be the best as long as they are learning. Maybe it would take the pressure off to where in stead of cramming, they could sleep and get the 92 instead of the 94.

I am hoping to finish the book, be in pieces, so I am more able to soak it in…I am warning you now that I am just a mother and not an intellectual ….Let me know what you think :)

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Days like today!


I am on a mission to be a better me…nothing to deep, not meaning to sound vain but I really just want to be a better looking me. Long term goal is to lose 172 lbs, short goal is be at 280 lbs! I got the most amazing shoes, they are the one that make you want to go on an adventure.
Run, walk, it doesn’t matter and the best part is that they are comfortable… I am currently 300 lbs and I just want to run in them ….anyway.

Today has been one of those days where I want nothing more than to be outside walking everywhere or go for a little jog but you know what it is doing outside ? Yes, raining…I want to walk and get the girls from school but the hubby was like no …I think I was actually pouting in the car like a seven year old. I am hoping to get outside tomorrow and I hope it will be a better day for it.

Blessings

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Hearing, Angels and miracles


I have always enjoyed talking to my husband but today was different, today I felt inspired. Today was a good day, I woke up feeling frustrated at a lot of things but most of all that my early rising hubby was still in bed (I don’t know why I was upset about that) and I knew our adventure seeking daughter was getting into things. As my day went along, I was feeling pretty good, having energy, I was able to afford a pair of new sneakers to exercise in (yeah me!) . I also spent an amazing day outside, nice breeze, not hot and just enjoying my kids.

The most amazing thing I did today was explain something that I have learned and it was is so powerful. It started when my stepfather died and loseing him was horrible, I still miss him. I had to get a new phone and my voicemails would be lost if I switched over, I had been holding on to the phone because it had his voice in the voicemails. I didn’t to lose what he said and how he said, I didn’t want to forget…through my tears when I cry my thought running through my head was I always wanted his voice in my head and it was my mantra I would say it and say it….I felt like he was the only one speaking good things over me and about me. There came a time when I was saying this to myself and God broke through the fog I was in and said Don’t you know it was me the whole time

It floored me, I had known God loved me but it wasn’t until that moment did I realize how much. That is the important truth, all the good things that happen to you or that people say to you, it is all God, it is him knowing what you really need and saying and doing that thing. It is really up to us to hear and obey, to reach out and touch people with smiles or a compliment…we are sharing the love we receive from God and give it away freely so that we may all be full and satisfied want in nothing.

The best thing I remember, was how loved I was by him, it was just his presence. My mother and I said the same thing of him that he was our angel, we were broken and in need of love from a man who was and wanted to be that knight in shining armor but in return I think he needed us too. Just how we were all broken in need of love and acceptance from each other and what we became was a family…and welcomed two amazing kids into our family. We lost him way too soon the world needs more people who love like he did and still does through his legacy of his children.

Lately my thing has been “I need to give out of my need”, I don’t know why but right now I am living on fumes. So when I give anything from smiles to money, I am giving from my need. Hopefully selflessly and I am glad he in not done with me yet :)

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Homeschooling


I currently homeschool my 12 yr old son, and I have done homeschooling for about 6 years on and off just depending on where we were at and if we were moving or not. I have really enjoyed just being around my kids, am always amazed at the people they are becoming.

Recently I have begun to be interested in the different styles of homeschooling, so i have picked up the book ” The how and why of homeschooling by Ray E. Ballmann”. I was looking for an overview not of styles but the pros and cons kind of thing. I was/am really disappointed :( I am a Christian and want my kids to believe but it is not the reason I home school.

I think I have come to a point in my life where I am tired of extreme thoughts and ideas and especially those people who want to put you in a box with a label and say this is who you are, Your whole life you have to be this and do this and raise your kids this way and dress this way. With homeschooling it is no different.

Their are the liberals who want everyone to be in public school for that indoctrination and the conservatives/tea party who are into homeschool and it is another type of indoctrination. I know I am labeling and generalizing people in these two groups (sorry:()

I want to homeschool my children because I love them and want to spend as much time as I can with them, learn what makes them excited, what they want do as they get older and be able to guide them as they grow up. Not to make sure they have memorized the whole bible and they have a Christian character and everything they do comes from a biblical worldview.( I am not judging people who do that if that is how you want them to grow up) I just choose to have my children expose to different thoughts and hopefully it will be ok :)

It was a little bit of a rant, just frustrated that people really believe that the reason you should homeschool is

“The most important area of instruction is the development of godly character. It is the precious foundation-stone on which all other learning is built… It is true that a child must grow physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially, but the most important growth of all is spiritual” pg 111 (the how and why of homeschooling)

I personally don’t agree with kind of thinking… I would love to start a dialogue.

Thanks for reading!

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Just so u know


I have random thoughts and here is one why is at this time of night I just want something to soothe my mind and give me that warm funny feeling…just purchased books on the princess bride, hitch hikers guide to the galaxy, mythology and how awesome America is. I was thinking of my kids and how I want them to relive the great stories that I enjoyed as a child. Legacy is a big word that just means sharing with your kids, and teacher the value of the creative mind and spirit…I hope I never loose that. Anywho, enjoy the rest of your day or night and hug them tight.
<3 :)

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Mere Christianity – book 2 – chapter 1


So tomorrow is Sunday school and I am really looking forward to going and discussing some of the thoughts that I had. I love discussing God and really how awesome he is, so I read book 2 chapters 1. Some times I just love how someone phrases something and really makes me think of God in a whole new way, I will give you an example… I never thought of God as some one who sings over us, whose delight in us is so great that it can not be contain in his person…and one of my favorite authors Leonard Sweet said it in one of his many books. I think we can all understand why he is my favorite now…hehe. Back to book 2 chapter 1, Rival concepts of God. One of the first few sentences is that “
“If you are a Christian you do not have to believe that all other religions are simply wrong all through”
I love the thought that not all of them are wrong or not all wrong their are portions that are good just like not all people parent the same way. I understand I am not a genius but I love the fact that God gave us all a different perspective and experiences, some good some bad but a jumping off point where he begins to woe us.
C.S. Lewis chooses to go into Pantheists, where they believe that God is above good and bad, in a sense that he does care what happens to you things just happen, like it is above his pay grade to get involved. I had a problem with this not because I have hatred with people who think this way but in a sense it reminds me of Romans 8:28- and we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to who are called according to his purpose. It seemed like the same idea, I know it is not. Because this would require a loving God to act on behalf of the wounded. The final view is that it is a caring and loving God who looks out for us, and this world at one point was a perfect world where it never rained and crops where watered from the ground up, it has just been ruined by us and the choices we have and by sin. This is the view that I stand by mainly because of what he said on page 39 ” if there were no light in the universe and therefore no creatures with eyes, we should never know it was dark. Dark would be a word without meaning.”

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